Falling in Love. Fallacy or Reality

I was thinking the other day about falling in love. The passion, sleepless nights and and butterflies in the stomach and a feeling that you will die if you do not get to see the object of your love ever again. Mind you, people fall in love with anything and everything and the feelings are the same whatever your  beloved is. For the purpose of this article I have chosen to focus on falling in love with another human being.
As described above the feeling is great. If it was possible to bottle that feeling and sell it, it will become the most sort after drug portion in the world. Endorphin are so great that we will take anything to keep us having such great feelings. But I wonder whether such a feeling was meant to be prolong for a considerable period.
My answer to that from experience and observation is not really.
Firstly, I began to look at the purpose of "Falling in Love". It is my opinion that it is a prerequisite to marriage and that it is a necessary ingredient in the process of leaving and cleaving. Lets face it, unless you feel that crazy about someone else you will never take the decision to live the comfort zone of your parent's house or your bachelor pad or "freedom" to get hitched to another person.
So the feeling of being in love is part of the universal process of growing into a matured person with the responsibility of taking care of another and possibly having a family. Lets look at an analogy. In this case, the launching of a space shuttle.
When a space shuttle is ready to be launched it is attached to booster rockets that carry enough energy for take off. Without these booster rockets it will be impossible for the space craft to generate enough power to take off to the height it needs to start heading to its final destination. So the engineers created boosters with so much power that it will carry the craft to its required height for orbit.
However if you have ever experienced a space craft launch you will notice that the booster rockets have a specific purpose and distance that they travel after which their fuel and energy is depleted and they fall back to the earth  releasing the spacecraft to continue on its journey into space "the final frontier".
Each space craft is sent on a specific mission and when that is over they come back to earth and in reentering earth, they also have to take certain procedures and the opposite gadgets to boosters are employed for safe return into earth's atmosphere to prevent the craft from burning up before landing and killing its crew.
By now you should be following where I am going with this story. Falling in love is like booster rockets to humans and it's purpose is for us to get to a particular height of experience that will enable us to take the next step in human relationships; which I will call leaving and cleaving. After that step has been taken successfully, humans tend to feel anti climatic and begin to wonder whether they have made a mistake. You see, prior to that feeling, they completely trusted their feelings and all of a sudden they feel naked without that feeling of being in love to guide them. Well the booster rockets have fallen off at just the right place where you cannot just decide to break off the relationship except if you are immature and foolish. I admit that many people especially celebrities tend to do the Vegas rush thing and end up annulling their decisions soon after ; each to their own. However to the majority of humans who understand that marriage is sacred and the vows should not be taken lightly,  they now need help to start the journey with another person together moving forward. That is why I am of the opinion that everyone who intends to get married should go for counselling before and after the wedding on a regular basis to keep them informed and to air out any issues because as different individuals we will have many issues as standard.
Just like the space rocket in space encountering new planets and experiences so being in a marriage will encounter new situations and circumstances. Every time the space rocket travels farther it needs refueling and more energy and it has been equipped with all it will need for the journey. Likewise for a marriage to go the long haul it will need to acquire the knowledge, skill and expertise that is necessary to keep it fresh, and interesting and worth having.
Many people make the mistake that all the work in marriage is done before and for the wedding but that is the least work necessary for the marriage.
Almost everyone who falls in love falls in love with an idea of the beloved not the real person. They make up stories in their minds and in turn believe the stories about that person. After marriage  the scales fall from their eyes and they begin to see the real persona of the beloved emerging and it scares them. You begin to hear the popular saying " you are not the person I fell in love with" etc, etc. But whose fault is it? It is not the beloved's fault that you made an image and created an idea of the beloved in your mind and then fell madly in love with that idea. Now the idea of incompatibility rears its ugly head.
Marriage cannot work on fantasy and vain delusions but on reality, honesty and common sense. You intend to have this person live with you for a very long time so get to understand them and their baggage and then you will fall in love with the real person not the idea you created of them. Usually you will discover that the real person is much more sophisticated and complicated than your idea of them and that in essence that is who you fell in love with at the beginning. Only when you are willing to let go of your idea of them will you be in the position to enjoy the real deal. My advise to you is, do not allow the scales of fantasy to cloud your vision from the onset and you will be able to really truly fall in love.