Ever wondered why the minute you decide to get married to someone something changes in the atmosphere? Why conflicts and strife starts becoming more frequent and family members start quarreling over the issue of the where, when and hows of the wedding? Even before you say I do, you release angels and agents working for or against your impending nuptials and subsequent marriage. Let me define these for you. I call the helpers of you upcoming nuptials angels and those that work to cause hindrances and eventual breakup of your relationship as agents.
No one is exempted from both. You as an individual have the ability to subdue and control which of them you work with and which you show the door.
The work of the angels are to prepare you mentally, physically, emotionally psychologically and spiritually for the biggest decision you will ever make in your life. Sometimes you may mistake the work of angels for the work of agents because it may be unpleasant and feels painful but rest assured the difference between the work of angels and agents is the outcome or the fruit. What is the final outcome of what you went through? Did it make you stronger, wiser, humbler, more generous, kinder and have stronger self control? Then the angel was behind the pain. Did it make you suspicious, envious, hurtful, full of bitterness, strife anger, and dejected and depressed?; Then it is the work of the agents.
Agents work to destroy you and your relationship using very familiar things. They use suggestions, so called wisdom, traditions, status quo, popular opinion, comparisons, covetousness, ambition, pride fear and greed to keep you single and unfulfilled in the area of marriage. You see, from the day you say I do, both agents and angels are assigned to you. If you are a person of prayer and you are submitted to the spirit of God , you may be able to see the bigger picture through every challenge you face towards your wedding day. If you are still selfish the angels will work on opening your eyes to your state and warn you about how such will hinder your happiness in the future, but the agents will feed you with so many good reasons why you should not budge. This is why pre-nuptials exist now. Don't get me wrong. I understand the reasoning behind this and have seen so many examples of why it looks necessary but I believe a pre- nuptial agreement is a perfect example of how you work with agents to destroy your marriage. It is a contract(unknowingly to you) with the agents to device all manner of problems during the marriage to prove you right and divorce becomes inevitable.
There are different types of angels and agents assigned to you based on whether you are planning a wedding or entering into marriage. On the day of your wedding the old angels and agents finish their assignments and the keepers or covenants and breakers of covenants are activated. You are assigned from God your heavenly Father angels whose jobs are to help you keep, flourish and enjoy your marriage so that the triple blessings are fulfilled. These are fruitfulness, multiplication and domination. There are also agents of wickedness assigned by the prince of darkness to ensure you never get to be fruitful, multiply or dominate.
This is the reason why the day after your marriage seems a little strange. Aside from the anti climatic feeling, you are now walking with giants. You work with a host of invisible beings waiting on you to give them the right to uplift or destroy your marriage. So which have you been controlling and which has been controlling you.
Your words and actions activate the angels or agents. Agents are what I call familiar spirits because they operate in the familiar things that look natural but have diabolical consequences. They influence you in the following areas-; your mind; in how and what you think of your spouse, they show you all their weaknesses and mistakes they magnify their faults and help you develop disrespect for your spouse. They will use all the popular opinion as arguments for why you have the right to think and feel this way and when you unknowingly agree by your response to it, you open the door to strife and bitterness in your marriage. When this happens, out goes the angels of joy, laughter and happiness.If you are married, you understand this. The minute you agree with the imaginations of your mind you loose your peace of mind and start going into a dark place and you can hardly get yourself out of it without a big fight of prayers to rescue you from the pit you have so dug for your self..
These agents are not your friends. They don't give you these arguments because they love you. They do not love you and they do not love your spouse.Nobody wins but them when you choose to listen and believe the pack of lies they throw at you. Let me make it very clear. No one goes though marriage without having these arguments thrown their way.Whether a third party is the instrument or a movie, a book or just voices in your head some thing somewhere will belittle your spouse in your presence and you have the responsibility of shutting it or them up pronto or you open the floodgates to more and more of the like. You can get overwhelmed and instead of ruling your mind and environment, they are the ones doing the domination.
Finances, in laws, work colleagues, church folks, and so called well wishers and even your children can be instruments used by agents to divide and conquer your marriage until you come to the conclusion that you made a mistake and you are not compatible and site irreconcilable differences. All this is in your head.
On the other hand the angels work tirelessly to fulfill the word that says "you will hear a voice in your ear saying this is the way work in it". They work with your conscience and will help you overcome the lies of agents and encourage you to see the big picture of why you got married in the first place. They will help create circumstances or points of growth as a couple and help you tackle difficult challenges. When angels are involved the end result is always a deeper knowledge, trust and respect for your spouse and a greater sense of inner peace in your heart.
Know that whatever makes you hate and despise your spouse is not from God. It does not do you any good. It steals you peace and will steal your joy eventually. Sometimes situations present themselves to make you two grow stronger and deeper as a couple. I call these challenges and trials opportunities for growth. When you overcome these challenges you get to experience another side of your spouse that you may have never seen if that trial did not come your way. You get to love and respect them deeper and you become more and more assured that you are meant for each other. During the trial, the agents will show you thousands of reasons why you should quit but depending on how strong your conscience has been developed you can tell the difference between what will kill you and what will heal you. It will be down to the choices you make whether you get to the other side of the trial and begin to enjoy the rewards of an overcomer.
Many people struggle with making these choices in their marriages. I have written this just to let you know that God did not leave you alone to work out your marriage. He have given you covenant helpers. Use them and submit to their leadership and you will benefit greatly. Likewise the agents of destruction were also released to make your marriage a hellish prison. Reject, renounce and cast them out of your mind and home and you will have dominion over all things.
Like they say, the ball is in your court. How will you play it?
